Probably not. As of 2013 there are 7 billion people living on earth and the chance that there is a person out there that is your soul mate is pretty slim because the reality is, no relationship is perfect. In fact, I am exhausted by all these Facebook ads that link you to articles listing the “31 traits of a perfect couple” or “10 reasons they are the one for you”. It’s all a bunch of bullshit!
Honestly, by clicking the link you get two things from the article:
First, raped by a shit ton of ads. I mean, seriously? You can hardly see the background of the webpage because there are so many ads. It’s disgusting.
Second, by time people click their way through the article, they have found ways to fit their relationship into every reason the article listed. No matter the reason, they have somehow managed to cut their relationship into the perfect size to fit into a list of attributes for the perfect relationship. Why? Because no one clicks on the link thinking, “I’m going to find faults in my relationship.” They do it to re-enforce the idea that they belong together! Cue the Titanic theme song, because that’s what they want their relationship to be, a disillusioned idea that whether or not they really have a relationship, that they belong together.
It’s not romantic if you think about it, especially not realistic. I find that in my own relationship, being with someone who chooses to be with me despite my many faults is far more romantic. Compared to being with someone who is with me simply because they like the idea of our relationship.
Here is some real relationship advice, communicate. If you don’t like something your partner is doing tell them. Talk it over. Even if it is small. Then give it time, if they agreed to change their actions then, great! Stay with them. If not, they made a choice not to change, so you need to make the choice if their actions are something you can move past. If you can’t move past it, you probably don’t need to be in that relationship because all you are going to do is drag out the enviable end of the relationship.